Friendship is an in-depth, relaxed relationship!
It is an in-depth relationship combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and intimacy. These are certainly aspects of life that all of us crave. Being able to trust and relax with your friend is a big part of friendship.
Remember when you were young and went with a friend to her grandma's for the week-end. It was fun but when you got home, home was wonderful. Your feeling was "I'm home. I can relax now." That's what a friendship should be. You go out into the world and do your best. You have your ups and downs, your problems and triumphs, your fun and tribulations. You charm and you perform. Then you come "home" to a friend. You can relax, put up your feet; you are relieved. If you still have to be charming and/or performing, it's not a relief. Friendship is a comfy situation like home. You get home, kick off your shoes, relax and sigh, "Ahh, home." But no one can form a friendship until he/she realizes that the basis of being friends is meeting the needs of the other person. One must be a friend to have one. Never forget that friends relate. Relating is the basis of friendship. Friends move talk from facts to emotions. In fact, you can tell how close your friendship is growing by how often you talk about feelings rather than facts or opinions.
Deepening friendships mean people can trust you with their secrets, both large and small. Good friends never break a confidence.
A friend is someone you want to touch. When you see best friends communicating, you will notice they "listen with their eyes," stand close together, and touch comfortably. No one is recommending that you indiscriminately touch and hug everyone in sight. Physical gushing is as much a turn-off as verbal gushing. It repels more people than it attracts. But once a friendship has grown to the point that both friends are comfortable with touching and feel they are being touched with sincerity, touching is a warm form of communication. Good friends want to touch. Good friends touch comfortably. A friends' touch is comforting. Friendships are a building process. You and your friend gradually share interests, feelings, and goals. Much of this is done by being together physically. Your physical presence shows your friend that you care about him. It affirms that he is important to you.
Friends, now and forever we shall be..cheers for our friendship..
*Jack,Jimmy,Jackson,Judson,Isara,Loke Hui,Ee Ling,Vincent,Tony, Amos,Shanna,Szu Mei,A-Gang,Kelvin,Elias,Ong,Carl Feai,Hong,Caryn,Manju,Jaspal and of course my best friend Deane..
Enjoying high high moments together
insightful, very. :)
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